To grow up to a hundred years ... of sexuality!
How to have sex to the grave
Ivan Dobrovolsky, "Bagnet"The chief sex therapist of the city of Kiev said that an active sexual life is the main indicator of human health
Intimate life is closely connected with all aspects of human existence. It has a significant impact on both the working capacity and creativity of a person, as well as on the organization of his rest. That is why it is impossible to minimize the importance of sexual relations in a person's life, and it is very important to try to prolong an active sexual life as long as possible. We talked about how to do this and many other things with Doctor of Medical Sciences, chief sex therapist of the city of Kiev, Honored Doctor of Ukraine Professor Boris Vornik.
– Are there norms for how many times a month a healthy person should have sex?
– In sexual relations, there can be no socialist obligations or over-fulfillment of the plan for the number of sexual acts (laughs). Everything is very individual here, and it is impossible to adjust a person to any standards. However, if a person wants to live a sexual life until old age, then he needs to have sex as often as possible and as regularly as possible. With age, the frequency and intensity of sexual intercourse will change, a certain rhythm will be developed. Someone once a day, someone once a week or once a month. But a person who rhythmically lives a sexual life will have sex to the grave. This is normal for a man, unless his health is damaged by alcohol, drugs, some diseases.
– So we are considering the perfect picture?
– Absolutely. If a person does not ruin himself and has regular sex, then he will live a sexual life until death.
– Is it possible to accidentally overdo it in this case?
– It is unlikely, although there are many myths about this among the people. One of them is that each person has a certain number of ejaculations for life, and if he spends them, he will lose energy and health. This is nonsense. An adult should understand that this is not the case.
– And what other common myths are there?
– They mainly concern the frequency and duration of sexual acts. These are stories from the category of bragging. Young people often come to me, worrying that they do not have such a high frequency of sexual acts as their friends. For example, they ask why I can only do it twice a night, and my friend – as many as five ...There may be two options: either his friend embellishes his sexual adventures (which is quite natural for men), or they have different sexual needs and sexual constitution…
– And what determines the regularity and frequency of sexual acts?
– From desire! And it is determined by the genetics of a person and his sexual constitution. So, there are three types of sexual constitution: strong, medium and weak. The frequency and regularity of sexual life, for each of these types has its own. There are also two intermediate types. There are special tests and tables with which the doctor determines the type of sexual constitution.
– Do the types of sexual constitution apply to men and women?
– Absolutely. This should be taken into account when building relationships. After all, if a man has a strong type, and a woman has a weak one, then there can be a very disharmonious relationship in such a couple. Someone will have to constantly restrain themselves, and someone will have to force themselves to have sex. Such couples should work out a certain compromise, and in such cases it is better to consult a doctor.
– Is there a possibility, with the help of medications or certain foods, to switch from a weak type to a strong one?
— no. This is a congenital condition caused by genetics. Genetically determined factors cannot be changed with the help of drugs. As for the issue of enhancing sexual function, it is unreasonable for a healthy person. If a person starts drinking all sorts of pills to enhance sexual function, of which there are quite a lot now, then after some time this will lead to a weakening of his sexual function. It's like a horse being whipped to make it run faster... sooner or later it will just fall. So it is with a person. The whole night he demonstrates wonderful results in bed, and then a week goes on the restoration of the nervous and sexual system. You have to pay for everything.
– How does abstinence from sex affect the body?
– Always negative. Any man knows that if he does not live a sexual life for a long time, then the first few sexual acts proceed very quickly. In addition, it is worth considering that with forced prolonged abstinence, for example, while serving in the army or being imprisoned in prison, masturbation should be resorted to. There is nothing terrible or shameful about this. On the contrary, it will help to preserve his sexual health.
by the way
The Journal of Medical Ethics published an article (Tarzia et al., Dementia, sexuality and consent in residential aged care facilities), which states that patients of nursing homes with initial signs of senile dementia are deprived of one of the last joys of life – having sex.
The report was written by the staff of the Australian Centre for Evidence-Based Aged Care. They write that many patients "continue to enjoy sex while living at home, but everything changes with moving to a nursing home." The reason is the lack of their own space, "age discrimination" and "fear of complications with the staff."
The report says: "Relationship formation, physical intimacy and sexual expression are basic human rights, a normal and healthy part of the aging process."
Nursing home patients are deprived of this basic right: "The lack of their own space, single beds in the wards, the inability to close the door to their room prevent sex."
A popular retelling of the article (Consensual Sex In Elderly Care Homes – Ageism And Safety Concerns) can be read on the Medical News Today website.
Portal "Eternal youth" http://vechnayamolodost.ru27.06.2012